How to tell how relaxed your cat is in your presence

  • Mochi
  • September 17, 2023

Observing your cat's body language and behavior can provide valuable insights into its level of comfort and relaxation in your presence. Here are some signs and cues to look for:

Body Posture

  • Lying Down: If your cat often lies down near you, especially if it exposes its belly, it's a sign of trust and relaxation.
  • Loose Body: A relaxed cat will have a loose and relaxed body posture, rather than a tense or crouched one.

Tail Movements

  • Tail Position: A tail held high or in a neutral position indicates confidence and comfort. A tail tucked between the legs or held low can indicate fear or unease.
  • Tail Twitching: Gentle tail movements or a still tail can indicate relaxation. In contrast, rapid or aggressive tail flicks might suggest irritation or agitation.

Facial Expressions

  • Eyes: Slow blinking or half-closed eyes are signs of trust and relaxation. Cats will often "slow blink" at people they are comfortable with, which is sometimes referred to as "cat kisses."
  • Whiskers: Whiskers in a neutral or forward-facing position indicate relaxation. Whiskers pinned back can suggest fear or aggression.
  • Ears: Ears facing forward or in a neutral position indicate a relaxed state. Ears that are flattened or turned back can indicate fear, irritation, or aggression.


While purring is often associated with contentment, it's essential to note that cats can also purr when they're in pain or distressed. However, in the context of being near a trusted human, purring usually indicates relaxation and contentment.


If your cat kneads you with its paws (sometimes referred to as "making biscuits"), it's often a sign of comfort and affection. This behavior harks back to kittenhood when they would knead their mother's belly to stimulate milk flow.


  • Self-grooming: If your cat grooms itself while near you, it's a sign of relaxation. Cats often groom after eating or when they're feeling particularly content.
  • Allogrooming: If your cat tries to groom you, licking your hand or hair, it's a sign of affection and trust.

Seeking Proximity

A cat that frequently seeks out your company, whether to play, sleep, or just hang out, is likely comfortable and relaxed in your presence.

Play Behavior

Engaging in playful behavior, like chasing toys or initiating play with you, indicates that the cat feels safe and relaxed.

Remember, every cat is unique, and individual behaviors might vary. The key is to spend time observing your cat and getting to know its specific cues and behaviors. Over time, you'll become adept at reading your cat's body language and understanding its feelings.